Where to start with anxiety? Learn:Understand:Change

If you are reading this post you may be experiencing anxiety, stress or repeated worry. It is exhausting to constantly be under this kind of pressure.

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Here, at the The Therapy Revolution, we believe that there are three core principles to making life changes.


By learning what anxiety is and how it operates, both physically and emotionally and understanding how it really works for you personally, you can begin to make the changes necessary in your life.

This process will be very individual and there is certainly not a one-size-fits-all solution. But there are some common features of anxiety that are worth knowing about as well as some things that are very useful in reducing this often unpleasant feeling.

We all experience anxiety. It is a normal function of our human existence, part of a much needed protective mechanism. When we are under threat we need to react in order to keep us safe. We either fight, take flight or freeze. To do this our body reacts in a myriad of ways so that we can take the necessary action. It releases hormones like adrenaline and cortisol so that we can react faster, having a blood supply to wherever it is needed. Then, once the danger has subsided, our bodies releases other hormones to counter act the effects and relax our bodies (these can make us shake).

The problem is that for most of us there are very few really critical fight or flight situations in our lives but plenty of one’s where we just have to go through the anxiety. For example

An exam

A presentation at  work


Relationship problems

Starting a new job

These are all anxiety provoking situations, but we can’t fight or take flight or freeze. Instead, we have to go through them until they are over, or we naturally begin to feel better anyway.

So whilst anxiety is normal, sometimes it can play TOO big a role in our lives. We can start to experience worry/stress much of the time or over and over again in certain situations without feeling there is a way out.

Anxiety is unpleasant and so we can find ourselves avoiding situations that trigger it and in the long run this can limit our lives. Maybe it is a general feeling that we carry with us. Sometimes our anxieties are become focused on very specific things. This is where we might have a panic attack, or develop a phobia or obsessive compulsive disorder.

There are many reasons why anxiety begins to play a bigger and bigger part in our lives. Our experience as therapists has taught us that there is normally more than one issue sustaining anxiety, which is why it can be so hard to work through alone.

So where to start? Well if you are dealing with anxiety our online courses will be coming soon. If you would rather a one-to-one approach then coming to see one of us, either face to face or online maybe what you need. However, if this is not possible then we recommend that you start by helping your body and mind by doing regular deep relaxation.

Deep relaxation works by helping your body to destress and reset itself. It counteracts the effects of anxiety and when used regularly, has long term health benefits. In fact, deep relaxation gives you the space to reflect and see things more clearly. You are welcome to sign up for our free Hypnosis recording ‘Total Relaxation‘.

Another tip is to write down all of the things you are anxious about, then give yourself some time to reassess them. Ask yourself if you can actually control each thing. If you can, then think about what action you could take to change things. For example, if you are worried you have upset a friend than you might decide it is best to contact them and ask. If it is something that is out of your control, then consider what good it does to worry about it. It is amazing the perspective that seeing everything written down can give.

It can also help you focus on what you want to talk about with your therapist, or someone close to you.

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